the ripple effect
Today, once again, I find myself fascinated by the way things ripple and echo in and through my life. I am writing a memoir of my experiences of narcissism. In…
the scorpion, the swan and the phoenix
My life is often full of synchronicity and “coincidence” the meaning of which is sometimes glaringly obvious and other times not so much. I’m writing a memoir of sorts about…
3 best books on surviving narcissists and narcissistic abuse
It’s not easy to break the painful cycle of narcissistic abuse. Leaving a relationship with a narcissist and/or psychopath is really hard for a whole bunch of reasons. Nevertheless, many…
monster
When I stumbled across this skeleton mask on FB, I was struck by the irony of it being such a perfect mask for a narcissist – a mask that actually…
30 similarities and differences between my ex narc and my new narc
It’s not easy to break the painful cycle of narcissistic abuse. Leaving a relationship with a narcissist and/or psychopath is really hard for a whole bunch of reasons. Nevertheless, many…
20 common traits of grandiose narcissists
Of all the types of narcissists, grandiose types are the easiest to identify (think Trump!). As you look at these traits, be aware that narcissists may exhibit any, all or…
20 common traits of covert narcissists
Covert narcissists (aka closet or vulnerable narcissists) aren’t nearly as easy to spot as overt, grandiose or malignant narcissists. They are dark and hidden and in the shadows, even in…
37 common traits of overt narcissists
Overt narcissists are fairly easy to spot. When you meet them, they’ll try to make you think the sun shines out of their a** (to use an old cliché). Problem…
12 things narcissists hold in contempt that most of the rest of us hold dear
Most of us value things such as honesty, generosity and authenticity. These are the kinds of qualities we seek and admire in friends, family members and romantic partners. People who…
99 lies narcissists tell their gfs, lovers, partners and/or spouses
I participate in a couple of support groups for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Some of the stories people share, particularly the women, are brutal and tragic. Many of the stories,…