101 love bombing lines and lies narcissistic men use to charm, disarm and dazzle their targets

The first days, weeks, months and sometimes even years with a narcissist (or an abuser) can be akin to living in a fairy tale.

They sweep you off your feet with compliments and declarations of love. They are extraordinarily charming and charismatic. You feel drawn to them like a magnet, they seem too good to be true, and it’s easy to fall under their spell again and again.

Narcissistic men are particularly drawn to compassionate, empathetic women. If those are your strengths, be wary of men who come on fast and intense and who serve up an endless stream of compliments and pronouncements of love – especially too early in a relationship.

If you feel like something’s “off,” it probably is. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

My intuition told me something was wrong right from the start. It told me to get out. I ignored my intuition. I listened instead to the seductive voice of a man who later emotionally abused me. Please don’t do as I did. Please save yourself a lot of pain, confusion and distress.

Yes, you are an amazing, beautiful, caring, compassionate woman who deserves to be loved, respected and cared for. And you deserve better than someone who is going to feed you a bunch of bull, and then turn around and manipulate, disrespect and abuse you.

Don’t fall for a barrage of lines and lies such as these that flow like honey from the mouth a narcissist in the love bombing phase:

1. I love you
2. You are amazing
3. I’ve never met anyone like you before
4. I can’t believe how lucky I am to have met you
5. Dang, you’re beautiful
6. You are an amazing woman
7. What we have is too precious to lose
8. I’ve never felt this way before
9. You are my soul mate
10. You are the love of my life
11. You have changed my life
12. You make me a better man
13. I was just a shadow of a man before I me you
14. Life wasn’t worth living before you
15. You are my world
16. You are my heart
17. I want to have children with you
18. I want to marry you
19. I want to spend the rest of my life with you
20. You are the best lover I’ve ever had
21. No one compares to you
22. Everything was black before you
23. Now that I have you, I’m not lonely anymore
24. My life started when I met you
25. I feel like I’ve won the lottery
26. You are different than other women I’ve ever met
27. No one holds a candle to you
28. I want to spend the rest of my life with you
29. I want you all the time
30. I can’t stop thinking about you
31. I miss you already
32. I think about you all the time
33. I can’t get you off of my mind
34. You are so sexy
35. Every time I think of you I get hard
36. Sex with you is better than any sex I’ve ever had
37. I love doing small things for you
38. I want to be with you all the time
39. You are my life
40. I can’t live without you
41. I love you more than anything in the world
42. I have always known you
43. I’ve been waiting for you all my life
44. God sent you to me
45. You are God’s gift to me
46. You are the reward for all the suffering I’ve been through in the past
47. I loved you from the second I saw you
48. I never want us to be apart
49. When I saw you, it was love at first sight
50. No one can ever replace you
51. You are my earth angel
52. You are my everything
53. I don’t need anything or anyone but you
54. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for you
55. You are my destiny
56. You are the only woman I want
57. I can’t imagine life without you
58. We were meant to be together
59. I’ve never been as attracted to anyone like I am attracted to you
60. It’s like we are connected at a deep soul level
61. I felt like I already knew you when we met
62. We must have been together in another life
63. We are so connected physically, intellectually, and emotionally
64. You blow my mind
65. I can’t believe how much I love you
66. I love you so much it hurts
67. You mean more to me than anything
68. We are perfect for each other
69. We are going to have a beautiful life together
70. I want us to grow old together
71. You are the answer to my prayers
72. You’re the only one I’ve ever loved; I didn’t love my exes
73. I can’t live without you
74. We are one
75. I don’t want anyone else but you
76. Our souls are intertwined
77. You are the perfect fit for me
78. You are my queen
79. You are my sun, moon and stars
80. I will never hurt you
81. I will always love you
82. You fill up my heart
83. I can’t believe how lucky I am
84. You inspire me
85. You make me want to be a better man
86. You give me courage
87. I need you
88. You touch my soul
89. I will always be honest with you
90. I want to share everything with you
91. You are so classy
92. You are gorgeous
93. You are everything I ever wanted in a woman
94. We are connected on a metaphysical level
95. I’m not alone anymore… I feel you at the core of my being
96. You are magic. You get me.
97. I love making love to your mind
98. You make me feel so alive, and aware
99. I cherish and treasure you, and every moment we are together
100. You are a goddess of love
101. I am in awe of everything you are teaching me

If a narcissistic man is bombarding you with stuff like this (and/or with C&W music), watch out for the signs of devaluation that will inevitably follow. When you start to be devalued, or feel bad about yourself, RUN! As fast as you can! Don’t stay; like I did. Don’t take him back or go back once you have left; as I did. Five times.

If you have left an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissistic man, and he tries to “hoover” you back with love bombing, remember the cycle will replay itself again.

dear narcissist

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monster

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