i’ll be glad when christmas is over
I wrote the poem below in December 2017, a little over a year after my mom died. I have shared it again each December since, when so many people…
3 best books on surviving narcissists and narcissistic abuse
It’s not easy to break the painful cycle of narcissistic abuse. Leaving a relationship with a narcissist and/or psychopath is really hard for a whole bunch of reasons. Nevertheless, many…
30 similarities and differences between my ex narc and my new narc
It’s not easy to break the painful cycle of narcissistic abuse. Leaving a relationship with a narcissist and/or psychopath is really hard for a whole bunch of reasons. Nevertheless, many…
12 things narcissists hold in contempt that most of the rest of us hold dear
Most of us value things such as honesty, generosity and authenticity. These are the kinds of qualities we seek and admire in friends, family members and romantic partners. People who…
i found a quilted heart #ifaqh
A friend and I were out walking on December 19, 2020, when I spotted something unusual on the side of the trail. “Look Stephanie,” I said. “There’s a heart hanging…
99 lies narcissists tell their gfs, lovers, partners and/or spouses
I participate in a couple of support groups for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Some of the stories people share, particularly the women, are brutal and tragic. Many of the stories,…
all of them lies
I hate lies and lying. Not surprisingly, I don’t have much patience for liars either. Honesty is one of the character traits I value most highly in myself and others….
101 love bombing lines and lies narcissistic men use to charm, disarm and dazzle their targets
The first days, weeks, months and sometimes even years with a narcissist (or an abuser) can be akin to living in a fairy tale. They sweep you off your feet…
nailing it
November 28, 2020: About two years ago, I befriended someone with whom I eventually developed an intimate relationship. At first, it was like a fairy tale. But it devolved into…
who will make it right?
Poetry comes to me in waves in times of intense emotion. Often, the poems just pour onto the page without me even thinking about what’s happening. Except at night. At…